NEW YORK - Like many women, Uma Thurman often feels torn between her family and career.

“I’ve learned that every working mom is a superwoman,�? the 36-year-old actress tells Parade magazine in its July 16 issue. “For most of the world, it’s really a necessity. The stay-at-home mom is over not just because of women’s liberation but because of men’s liberation from wanting to be the breadwinners.�?

Thurman, nominated for an Oscar for her role in 1994’s “Pulp Fiction,�? filed for divorce from Ethan Hawke in 2004 after six years of marriage. The couple have two children, Maya, 8, and Levon, 4.

“I have a great career and two healthy, beautiful, smart and funny children,�? she tells the magazine. “We’re an incredibly tight-knit threesome, and we have so much fun together.�?

The actress, who says she’s “just another American woman who was in an unfulfilled marriage that fell apart,�? refuses to throw any dishy darts at the 35-year-old Hawke.

“I cannot participate in anything critical about my children’s father,�? she says. “I just need to keep peace. I think it’s fair to say that I haven’t said one mean thing, and I’m not going to start now. It’s terrible for my family.�?

In “My Super Ex-Girlfriend,�? which opens July 21, Thurman plays a superhero dumped by her regular-guy boyfriend (Luke Wilson). She gets revenge by using her powers to make his life miserable.

“I like that it’s a gender-bender flick where the woman has the edge,�? she says. “No one likes being rejected. It’s very smart and observant about human nature. That’s what makes the whole thing hilarious.�?

After struggling with her own personal pain and upheaval, Thurman says: “I’m proud that I keep trying.�?